I was also interviewed by Itv presenter Antoine Allen in 2016 on his website 'AntoineSpeaks' about my childhood.
In the "Early personal life" interview I stated that, "My early life was very restricted as I had a very strict upbringing. I wanted to fit in with my friends in primary school so I was against my parents and was closely associated with a pedophile maid best friend Andre Sterling like a ‘Second mother’ as she was trusted who took me places as well to see my ‘friends’ but it was manipulation on her path for years. How could a pedophile have honestly wished well on me or been like ‘second family’ truly? She wanted me to be a failure in life and be a menace. When I look back at my childhood, I want to inspire children out there and let them know how important it is to tell their parents, guardians or family if someone is child grooming or sexually abusing them even if it means that they would be controlled more. My childhood abuser did not want me to tell my teachers, family, friends or parents and wanted me to see her as my ‘best friend’." I believe that I was 'brainwashed' as a child by that woman who lied to my family about who she had been, after she started abusing me at 5 years old by kissing me & touching my body parts sexually among other things, after starting to work for my parents at 3 years old and the maid introduced me to pornographic tv programs when I was being babysat in my pre-teens. I remember telling a friend in primary school about the situation, but she did not tell the Principal or any teachers. When my parents were not around my childhood home, in my pre-teens for example, I watched a tv show in the early morning hours called 'Queer as Folk' (unsuitable for kids due to the content) with the pedophile as well who told me to never tell my family, trying to seduce my thinking along with a hardcore pornographic tape she bought for me to watch with her when I was barely a teenager. Andre told me to kill my mother, when I was a little girl, by getting Panadol & mixing it in a drink in the blender for her so that I would not be controlled anymore but I loved my parents and violence never solves anything. She also told me that she was in a relationship with a man called 'Oba' at the time and I met her daughter who was older than me. She told me to lie to my parents and change grades on my report cards in primary school, which were not A's with liquid paper. As I remember her, when she ironed clothes in the basement of my childhood home where she lived most of the week and chewed ice in a cup, she told me that she worked in France as a housekeeper where she touched another little girl. I did not know if it was true, but I told others in secondary school like my school best friend about what happened to me. I would draw pictures of naked people having sex in my early teens because of what I was subjected to as a child secretly by the pedophile. I loved books and television programs on witchcraft especially the dark side of Halloween, aliens & violent video games. Back then, going to church was just a weekly routine.
I started to smoke marijuana casually/secretly (not addicted in any way) at 14 years old when the maid brought it to my home, wanting to take Ecstasy as well but did not have a supplier and would drink alcohol all of the time in my adolescence, like many teenagers that wanted to be "adults" before the legal age. I was also a teeny bopper. I would practice djing with my older brother Chris who was part of a dj group in his secondary school St. Mary's College in Port-of-Spain, called 'Siberia Sounds'.
I believe that due to the child sexual abuse/child grooming by the maid, I was blinded throughout my childhood and adolescence with regards to decision-making with my academics as well as priorities. I used to have bisexual tendencies although the only female experience that I had was with my childhood pedophile. I'm 100% straight now. Although I grew up in a homophobic Caribbean society, I don't judge people who are Gay or bisexual because sometimes in life they may have been in an abusive relationship or marriage where they were cheated on, which made them not want to be heterosexual. Also, many Gay/bisexual men think women are generally annoying to be in a relationship with and too much baggage & lesbians have their reasons. I'm not self-righteous anymore like I used to be. Who am I to judge anyone? Who is anybody to judge? It really takes someone who was abused to truly understand others. Let God judge his children alone not flawed human beings. There are people in the Christian faith who would condemn me for stating that because they are self-righteous and many of them have a Past that I want for them to remember so they would stop the badtalking, the gossip and the condemning of others or look to spite me for saying that or want something bad to happen to me so they can call it God's punishment. I know that the bible is against being Gay or bisexual but it also teaches in Matthew 7:1-3 to Judge not, that ye be not judged. 2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measureye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye. I have been a born again Christian since 19 years old.
I am only into men (especially fit & muscular- I'm attracted to really nerdy guys) although I'm not looking for anyone as I don't fornicate. I guess that I'm a loser for being a good person. Even when I was younger in my teens, I was never promiscuous- I was never a bad girl.
As I remember, my parents were very kind people while they were still married, before they separated then divorced in my mid-teens, although very strict, and would always visit and invite children from St. Dominic's Children's Home in Belmont, Trinidad with Sister Marina to the main family home I grew up in for breakfast parties after church. The pedophile was so manipulative that she did not want me to see what she was doing as evil or wrong and would often go to church with my family on Sunday mornings for the weekly hour service. She also had a bible in her bedroom at the house. I remember the roof of my childhood home (the only roof in the neighborhood with similar roofs) having several or more corbeaux (Trinidadian Black Vultures) settled on it when I returned home after secondary school daily on afternoons and believe that the woman put witchcraft on my family. I did not tell my parents or family anything until I was 19 years old although I told a classmate in primary school and a friend in secondary school. Although there were times that I got A+ in particular subjects on my report cards, I struggled academically at Maria Regina Grade School because of what transpired with the pedophile although I was the Head Girl in Grade 5.
I believe that most people are former victims of something and want to be an advocate for children around the world, which led me to join the Heroes Foundation (Big Brother, Big Sister) in 2010 although I am no longer a member/volunteer. As an adult, I do not smoke anything and do not drink alcohol casually like before (only on rare & holiday occasions).
Although my older siblings were not victims of the pedophile, my brother Chris Volney was kidnapped at age 21 and locked in his car trunk at gun point, left to suffocate there but survived while his ex-girlfriend was raped in his same car (a Mitsubishi Lancer), in front of him by a total stranger who held her up with the gun after driving them to a river, not being able to help her. He was also in a car accident in the past, but he survived without personal injuries to him, and his car was badly damaged then and recently in 2025, which was not published in the newspapers.
Another experience when I was in my adolescence was when my family friend/bodyguard Derrick Nelson from Tobago was attacked with guns and broke both legs in a dry river when he attempted to escape. He died in the hospital. The reason for his attack was because he got involved with a woman from the courthouse and was seen as the "Perfect Romeo".
I remember the good people who worked for my family like the dead bodyguard who died in the hospital because of the gun injuries, the family police officer Jason Seecharan from Award-winning soca group H20 Phlo and other loyal people such as my childhood driver Andy Absalom. I also had a live at home 'sister' Nicole Ross from St. Dominic's Children's Home in Belmont, Trinidad as a child and adolescent who I have not seen since then.
In 1996 when my family and I were travelling to Europe for the first time, one of the engines of the aircraft caught on fire while in the air and I remember it being traumatizing as a child. The plane had an emergency landing in Barbados.
My favorite leisure books as a child were The Secret Island' as well as Five on Kirrin Island Again by Enid Blyton and best loved video game was 'The Legend of Zelda'.
I have never been married and do not have or want any children because simply I do not want to, loving single life forever.
According to the Christian bible, Fornication (Sex before Marriage) and Adultery are sins. #Stdstiprevention #hivaidsprevention.
I know people who are my friends who do not believe in the same things as me & do not judge them in any way because I know that human beings like myself had different experiences and lifestyles so who am I to assess anyone? Who am I. I don't think that I'm better than people with Stds or Hiv/Aids especially innocent children who are virgins. If anyone is curious about me, I'm always ready to get tested for anything although I don't need to. I know that there is a stigma attached to that but seeing that there are people who are either married or in relationships or single who want to bring me down for whatever reason, because perhaps they think that I'm too humble or something, I want to prove them wrong and I want them to do the same as well. You cannot watch someone and tell. Once again, I'm not looking to insult anyone with a sexual disease/s as I stated before that I don't see myself as better than them for biblical reasons. I have friends with Stds.
For many years in my twenties, I did not believe in God and was agnostic because some people who I trusted when I was in my teenage years, plotted against me after I believed that they were Christians, which was the reason I confided in and went to bible studies with them. They posted bad pictures of me on their facebook profiles with the intention to embarrass me but there were not any videos. They made jokes that they reported and put me on their 'limited profiles'. I lost all of my Sunsilk hair brand modelling pictures because of them. This happened in 2008 when I was 19 years old, before I became a Poet in 2010.
When I was 18 going on 19 years old, I modelled in 2007 for an Award-winning Carnival costume band 'Trini Revellers "Que Viva Mexico!", which was considered to be one of the best and largest back then before the bandleader's death in 2019 in Tnt. I was invited to model again for them the following year. Also, I was a local Brand Ambassador/Promotional model for Sunsilk Hair Brand in Trinidad after being discovered at Inglefield, Ogilvy & Mather Caribbean Ltd. after an in-person audition in 2007-2008. I never auditioned in-person internationally for any modelling agencies although I had the opportunity to do more locally after another in-person audition at Triniscene.
I did a photo shoot with Kareem Abdullatif who encouraged me to enter the Face of Shabeau Magazine competition in my teens but I did not have a Comp card available at the time. I worked with Laura Ferreira the photographer and with Annelie Solis when she was a photographer when I was in my adolescence.
My parents did not allow me to model before 18 going on 19 years old although I wanted to and still had a problem with the nakedness of certain Adult carnival costumes. Further to this, I was asked to enter a model search for Campari Alcohol brand in Trinidad when I was in my late teens but I did not pursue that.
In 2023, I did a photo and video shoot at Middleham Falls in Dominica with Award-winning photographer Derek Galon.
I've been asked before whether I entered any beauty pageants when I was a child, in my teens or in my twenties or early thirties and the answer is No. I never saw that as my thing.
MY EDUCATION
I'm currently a Postgraduate student.
Primary School- Maria Regina Grade School (Head Girl & House Captain)
Secondary School- St. Joseph's Convent, Port-of-Spain (5 Grade I's in English Language (Distinction), English Literature, Mathematics, Spanish, Principles of Business and 3 Grade II's in Caribbean History, French & Biology [although I almost got a I in Biology]) at CXC Csec in 2005. At CXC CAPE I received a I in Caribbean Studies, a I in Communication Studies, a II in Sociology and III's in other subjects in 2007. I was the Victrix Ludorum for 3 years in a row at my secondary school and also won a bronze relay medal in the 200M at the National Secondary School Championships in Trinidad at Hasely Crawford Stadium with Nyoka Giles in 2007.
Oxford University Department for Continuing Education- Undergraduate Advanced diploma in Data & Systems Analysis from 2012-2013 (Distinction), Metaphysics certificate (2011)
University of the West Indies Mona Campus, Jamaica- BA Computer Science (for 1 year from 2014-2015- don't have a degree in Computer Science)
University of the West Indies St. Augustine Campus- Undergraduate Public Relations Diploma 2015-2016
University of the West Indies from 2017-2020 BSc Sociology with initial minor in Psychology then Communication Studies with Second Class Honours (based on the GPA Grading Scale after 2014)
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